“Sometimes we have to pivot, but do what's best for you. Stay patient and enjoy the journey.”

Why did you and your partner decide to breastfeed your children and how do you feel about breastfeeding?

It was a joint decision based on several factors. One factor was the nutrients that come from mom naturally. We thought that would be better healthwise. To be honest, it was also cost-effective. Formula costs a lot. We decided to give it a try. We know there could be challenges, but we decided that if it didn’t work, then we’ll move to formula.

Was breastfeeding familiar to you and your partner? Did the women in your family breastfeed?

Not that I can remember. I’ve seen women breastfeed around me before but I don’t think you really know what it entails and what the benefits are until you’re doing it. 

What surprised you most about the breastfeeding process?

Probably just seeing the bond between mom and baby. I’ve never seen it before. Baby is looking for food from mom. She’s pretty much the only source he has for food, of course until he starts eating solid food.

Is mama still breastfeeding?

Yes. My son is 18 months old. He has teeth, so he’s eating table food. But occasionally he still does breast feed. 

What is  your favorite part of your family’s breastfeeding journey?

My favorite part is just the reassurance that our baby is getting everything he needs naturally.

In what ways do you support your partner while she’s breastfeeding your baby?

You’ve got to have a lot of patience going through this journey. There’s not really much you can do as a father once baby is hungry and fussing. That’s when mom comes in. You’ve got to be very supportive of mom in that situation. Whether that’s getting her water, taking care of things that need to be taken care of while they’re breastfeeding, or giving them a break afterward because they may be tired. Things like that. Mom will let you know. You have to listen to her and be very detail-oriented. Just pay attention to your partner. 

Has breastfeeding been an adjustment for you as a dad?

There are times when you know mom and baby are bonding and sometimes you feel a little left out, but that’s part of it. In those instances I would say, just continue being supportive. 

Do you have any other advice for other dads on how to support their breastfeeding partners?

I can’t stress enough about support – not just for mom but for baby as well. Everyone doesn’t have the same journey. There may be times when the baby doesn’t latch or the baby may not be able to have breastmilk and may need formula. Maybe you want to breastfeed and it just is not feasible. Follow medical advice and do what’s best for you and the baby. Stay patient and enjoy the journey.