“Everybody needs a moment. Everybody needs a break. Everybody needs some time for themselves…this is temporary. So enjoy the moment."

What (or who) helped you to make the decision to breastfeed your baby and why did you decide to take that journey? 

For me, breastfeeding was very important. It was a consideration for saving money, and secondly, it was important for me to have that bond with my child and give him the nutrients your body is able to provide your child. That was one of the main reasons why I breastfed for some time. Because it was already here for my child.

My mother explained her story. My grandmother explained her story. It was an inspiration. I was always informed about how important it was, not just the money aspect of it, but the bonding that each child has with their mother. I’ve been blessed enough and grateful enough to do it.

What surprised you most about your breastfeeding journey?

The initial pain was an eye opener. For a while I was contemplating whether or not I should continue. But I was encouraged to just keep going. I’m grateful for everyone who was in my corner. My support system just encouraged me to continue when I was in the trenches.

What were the rewards of breastfeeding that you experienced?

From the very beginning to now, we’ll have these moments where we just look at each other and we just play. I’ll tickle [my child], or he’ll put his hands on my face. I’ll name off certain body parts for him. We’re just learning about each other.

How do you get over any challenges you face during your breastfeeding journey?

We are learning patience. Sometimes I have moments when I don’t want to be touched any more. I feel kind of “touched out”. And he wants to be cuddled and comforted. I remind myself that this is temporary and enjoy the moment. 

Now that your baby is one, do you have plans to wean him?

I actually just mentioned this to my mother. My ideal time frame was a year and a half, but at the same time it is also up to him. Right now I don’t think he’s really eager. I’ve implemented solids, but for the most part he’s still breastfeeding. It’s more of a comfort at this point, so I’m offering him that. 

What advice would you offer others on their breastfeeding journey?

I respect what each person chooses in regard to their journey with their child, but for the most part, I would highly encourage breastfeeding. It’s not necessarily the financial aspect of it, it’s more the bond you develop with your child. There will be turbulence on the journey, so before going that route, make sure you have a support system. A lot of women don’t have that support system so they find themselves starting and then just going toward formula.  

Was there a time during breastfeeding that was especially challenging for you? Or is there anything you think would have made the experience easier?

Having my child, I went in with the understanding that I would be doing it alone because I went the donor route. My child is with me 24/7, so there are moments when I want a break and can’t get it. But everybody needs a moment and everyone needs a break. Everyone needs time for themselves. I’ve had some friends and family say, “Well, this is what you wanted.” Yes, that is a true statement. I have to take what other people say with a grain of salt and know they have my best interests at heart. On the occasions I get help, I’m grateful for it. I’m happy to be a mother. He’s a blessing to me.